In the wake of the recent attack in Boulder, our hearts are with the victims, survivors, families, and the broader community whose lives were changed in an instant. Tragedies like these shake us to our core, leaving behind grief, fear, and a collective sense of loss. In these painful moments, it’s natural to want to help—but many of us feel unsure of what to say or how to show up.
At the Colorado Healing Fund, we’ve supported countless individuals and communities through the aftermath of mass tragedy. Here are a few meaningful ways you can offer comfort and support to those who are hurting right now:
1. Listen Without Needing to Fix
Survivors and grieving families don’t need solutions—they need space to be heard. Offering a listening ear without judgment or interruption is one of the most powerful gifts you can give.
Say instead:
“I’m here for you.”
“I don’t know what to say, but I care.”
“Would you like to talk, or would you like me to just sit with you?”
Avoid phrases like “everything happens for a reason” or “at least…” which, though well-intentioned, can feel dismissive of pain.
2. Respect Everyone’s Grieving Process
There’s no “right way” to process trauma or grief. Some people want to talk; others need time alone. Some express anger, others sorrow or even numbness. Grief is personal, and each response is valid.
Honor where they are—not where you think they should be.
3. Offer Practical Help
Grief and shock can make even small decisions feel overwhelming. Offering specific help can ease that burden. Instead of “let me know if you need anything,” try:
- “Can I drop off a meal this week?”
- “Would it help if I picked up your groceries?”
- “I’m heading to the pharmacy—can I get anything for you?”
4. Be There for the Long Haul
In the weeks following a tragedy, support often pours in. But when the headlines fade, survivors can feel forgotten.
Mark your calendar to check in—not just now, but a month from now, or on meaningful anniversaries. Healing is a long journey. Simply being there over time makes a difference.
5. Give in Ways That Matter
If you’re looking to support the community in a tangible way, financial donations help meet real-time and long-term needs. The Colorado Healing Fund, in coordination with local partners, ensures donations go directly to survivors, victims’ families, and impacted communities with transparency and care.
Donate to the Boulder Security Fund »
6. Take Care of Yourself, Too
When tragedy strikes close to home, it affects us all. Watching the news or scrolling through heartbreaking stories can trigger anxiety, grief, or helplessness. It’s okay to step away and take breaks.
Supporting others is easier when you are caring for your own emotional needs, too.
In Closing
No words can erase the pain of this tragedy, but our compassion—expressed through presence, action, and love—can be a small light in the darkness. The Colorado Healing Fund remains committed to walking alongside survivors and strengthening our communities in the wake of trauma.
Together, we grieve. Together, we heal.